1. DONT CALL FIRST ! ELSE
We broke up for stupid reasons but as soon as i did it i regreted it. i called her and told her i had made a mistake and asked if she would give me another chance, obviously she said no, that’s what i had expected, but she said she’d consider the idea. and ever since then, i’ve been talking to friends (including her best friend)and they told me that i had to show her that i REALLY wanted her back. her best friend (and everybody else i’ve talked to) recommended that i call her everyday for at least 2 minutes to see how she was doing and that i should try to get her back slowly, but not with expensive gifts or anything, but with like sentimental things like i.e. i sent her an envelope yesterday that contained a mustache, a mini poster of a young michael jackson, another of depeche mode, a paintbrush, a picture of an alien (we like aliens), a picture of a chicken (i’m her stinky chicken), and a printout of a dream flotah that i made on paint (she was my dream flotah). oh and a little note that said, simply, “i know that i am the stinkiest chicken in the world right now. i’m sorry.”You would think that winning a girl back involves doing all of the things that attracted her to begin with and led into a full-blown relationship.
After all, if they worked once… why not a second time around? Unfortunately nothing could be further from the truth.
The strategies for saving a relationship are very different than the ones for starting or maintaining one. And while most men are well versed with the rules of the latter, few seem to be savvy to the former.
So, if you happen to be going through a breakup and you want to win this girl back… here are 5 actionable suggestions that strongly contradict the traditional rules of relationships…
2. Do NOT give this girl the same amount of attention you did during the relationship…
Every relationship requires attention from both parties involved to grow healthy and strong. If you’re not showing a girl how much you care about her (to a healthy degree)… it won’t be long before she walks out on you.
But during a breakup it’s a different story altogether. Why? Because when a girl breaks up with you she’s asking for space (whether she’s verbally expressed it or not). And if you don’t give her what she asked for, she’ll continue to put more of that space between you.
Now this doesn’t mean that you should blatantly ignore her… quite the contrary. However, in most breakup situations, when it comes to giving your ex-girlfriend attention… less is MORE.
Besides, giving her exactly what she asked for, at least initially, is a key factor in winning her back (more on this latter).
Now on to the second rule…
3. Don’t try to win back her heart with gifts
Giving a girl a gift from time to time is just as important as giving her enough attention. It’s a great way to remind her that she is someone special in your life. Not only that, but gifts are a great way to say you’re sorry if you happen to screw up… but that’s only when you’re still together.
In contrast, when you’re broken up… the act of showering a girl with gifts (e.g. flowers, apology cards, etc.) not only doesn’t help your situation… it actually hurts it.
Why?
Because in her eyes, this is “too little, too late”. Whatever problem led to this breakup is something that she obviously feels strong about. And attempting to solve this problem with something as simple as a gift just reinforces the fact that you don’t understand her on the level she expects you to.
Now with that being said, there are times when gifts can do wonders for saving a relationship… but immediately after a breakup isn’t one of them.
4. Never try to keep tabs on where she’s going (or who with)…
When you’re in a relationship with a girl you should know what she’s doing and who she’s with. The same holds true about her. It’s a healthy way of sharing your life with each other… even when you’re apart.
But when the relationship ends, you immediately lose the right to keep tabs on her. Furthermore, attempting to do so will most likely alienate her. Remember, she’s single now so she doesn’t have to “report” to you (or anyone else for that matter).
And I understand that it’s nerve-racking not knowing what your ex is doing, especially when she’s “available” for any guy to come along and sweep her off her feet… but trust me on this one… it will save you a world of pain (and possibly your relationship).
Besides… it’s better for your sake if you’re left in the dark, and this ties in directly with the next rule that should be broken.
5. Do not attempt to get in the way of her dating someone else…
A relationship lives by monogamy and dies with infidelity. And that’s why out of all the rules, this has to be the hardest to break (that is unless you’re used to sharing your girl with other guys… but this I highly doubt).
Nevertheless, this all changes once a breakup comes about. And I know what you’re thinking, “How can I sit back and just let her date someone else?”
Well first of all… no one is telling you to encourage it… just don’t fight it. Because if you do try to fight it the only thing you will accomplish is encourage her. Why? It’s pure psychology. It’s the same principle that applies between parents and children. What do children always end up doing? The exact things their parents tell them not to.
And don’t think for a second that this reaction goes away with age. Remember, as soon as someone tries to stop you, me, or anyone else from doing something… we always tend to want to do it even more, wouldn’t you agree?
And now for the final rule…
6. Do not continue to be her best friend throughout this breakup…
Couples oftentimes consider their respective partners to be their best friends. After all, so much time and happy memories are being shared together. This is why it’s typical for a girl to tell her ex that she still considers him her best friend and she wants to keep it that way during the breakup.
However, this arrangement is not a mutually beneficial one (to say the least). To be frank, what usually ends up happening is that she heals and he continues to hurt. But again, you shouldn’t blatantly ignore your ex if this is your case… but just like in rule #1: less tends to be more… so keep this in mind if you’re still best friends with your ex.
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Tuesday, December 8, 2009
BETTER WAYS OF WINNING BACK YOUR EX-GIRL
Love sometimes has a funny way to deal with the hearts of people. Even if love seems to be so strong between a man and woman, there are still a number of things that undermine this love and eventually, the lovers do break up. Break up is almost always a sad sight. The emotional investments that each person has put into the relationship, the sleepless nights over quarrels that were smoothed out the next day; or the precious moments that these two lovers have spent together—these are all worth preserving.
Yet, breakups happen. If you have been in one recently, take heart, there are ways for you to win back her heart. Guys do make a lot of mistakes when they are trying to win back the heart of their beloved. They do this because they feel desperate and they panic that they might lose their beloved forever. On the other hand, a number of men feel that they are engaged in a competition where the girl is the “prize” and they have to “win” her back at all cost. Such a mode of thinking rarely works.
Ironically, in order to win back her heart, you need to start thinking of her as the “prize.” Instead, start thinking that you love her and you want the best for her. Do not consider her as the “prize”, you are the prize. With this kind of thinking, you can muster enough courage and creativity to pursue her and win back her heart.
This might sound like conceit to other people or perhaps downright condescension, yet it is not! The people who think this way feel that their girlfriend should be treated like a princess or a queen and do every single thing for them. This is not right! The woman is not your boss. She is your girlfriend and your partner in the activities that you do in life.
If you prostrate yourself before her and become like a servant, she might simply look your way and ignore you for the rest of your life. You will not be able to win her heart back in this case.
Try to brush yourself up and take a look at your assets and your good qualities. Enhance them and work on your weak points. Display confidence in pursuing your girl and if she realizes who you really are, then she might be swayed to reciprocate your pursuit of her.
Winning back her heart will no longer be your effort if this happens, she will also put her own efforts on the line and before you knew it you did win back her heart and she will be in your arms once more
Yet, breakups happen. If you have been in one recently, take heart, there are ways for you to win back her heart. Guys do make a lot of mistakes when they are trying to win back the heart of their beloved. They do this because they feel desperate and they panic that they might lose their beloved forever. On the other hand, a number of men feel that they are engaged in a competition where the girl is the “prize” and they have to “win” her back at all cost. Such a mode of thinking rarely works.
Ironically, in order to win back her heart, you need to start thinking of her as the “prize.” Instead, start thinking that you love her and you want the best for her. Do not consider her as the “prize”, you are the prize. With this kind of thinking, you can muster enough courage and creativity to pursue her and win back her heart.
This might sound like conceit to other people or perhaps downright condescension, yet it is not! The people who think this way feel that their girlfriend should be treated like a princess or a queen and do every single thing for them. This is not right! The woman is not your boss. She is your girlfriend and your partner in the activities that you do in life.
If you prostrate yourself before her and become like a servant, she might simply look your way and ignore you for the rest of your life. You will not be able to win her heart back in this case.
Try to brush yourself up and take a look at your assets and your good qualities. Enhance them and work on your weak points. Display confidence in pursuing your girl and if she realizes who you really are, then she might be swayed to reciprocate your pursuit of her.
Winning back her heart will no longer be your effort if this happens, she will also put her own efforts on the line and before you knew it you did win back her heart and she will be in your arms once more
Saturday, November 28, 2009
HOW WE GOT BACK TOGETHER !
"I haven't slept since she left me! I'm desperate and I need your help!" Shouted my buddy Brian. I could tell he had been crying but he was covering it up.
I looked my best friend straight in the eye and said, "Just relax man. I know exactly how you can get her back."
Boy! relaxed a bit after hearing those words and said, "I could sense something was wrong for the past few weeks now but I didn't do anything about it. I could literally feel her slipping away from me. Little by little she drifted further and further away, giving me less and less attention. I honestly didn't know what to do..."
I just smiled inwardly, knowing all too well that this kind of thing happens all the freakin' time. Lord knows I've gone through it many times myself. Everything was going well with Him and his girlfriend for years and then one day, BAM, all of a sudden:
Strange behaviuors
No kiss
No sex
No romance
No good talk
No laughing
Just a single fomular from the master save my relationship we now have long sex than before she calls me more and buy me gifts things she hardly do try very hard never to loss me ! HOW I DID IT ? for free Click Here!
Saturday, November 14, 2009
TO GET YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND BACK THESE YOU MUST NOT DO
How do I get back my ex girlfriend, you ask. The answer is not as much of a mystery as you may think. Analyze one hundred breakups and what it would take to get those people back together, and you will see a pattern emerge. That pattern is the “way” to get your ex girlfriend back. Let’s get started.Click Here!
The first step is to find the reason or cause of the breakup in the first place. Why did the breakup happen? Be careful when trying to answer this question. It’s easy to get wrong. Let me give you an example.
Let’s say you cheated on your girlfriend and that’s why she left you. The easy answer to the question of what caused the breakup is that you cheated on her. Unfortunately, this answer is wrong. The cheating didn’t really cause the breakup. Answer this question: Why did you cheat on your girlfriend? You can change this question to address your specific situation. Perhaps you cheated on your girlfriend because she wasn’t giving you enough attention. Okay, why wasn’t she giving you enought attention? Keep digging with “why?” questions until you can’t dig anymore. Once you get to the end, you should have the answer to what “really” caused the breakup.Click Here!
Next, you have to keep your cool. Do not be desperate. You may be saying to yourself, “I can get my ex girlfriend back if I text her one hundred times a day”, but the truth is pestering her, and other behavior like it, will only push her further away from you. Stay cool. A good way to acheive this is to not spend time alone. Hang out with friends as much as possible. While you are being cool and hanging back, you want to wait for the right time(s) to arrange to meet with your ex girlfriend. Do not force this. Just wait for the right time.
How To Get Back My Ex Girlfriend – The Final StepClick Here!
Once you are able to plan a harmless and pressureless meeting with your ex, you will be able to implement your plan for reigniting the passion and desire in your relationship. Also, you will be able to initiate your trust-building and communication plan so your ex girlfriend will feel safe with you and trust you.Click Here!
This works! Getting your girl back is not a huge mystery. To learn more about
•how to find the real cause of your breakup
•how to reignite passion, and
•how to communicate better and build trustClick Here!
The first step is to find the reason or cause of the breakup in the first place. Why did the breakup happen? Be careful when trying to answer this question. It’s easy to get wrong. Let me give you an example.
Let’s say you cheated on your girlfriend and that’s why she left you. The easy answer to the question of what caused the breakup is that you cheated on her. Unfortunately, this answer is wrong. The cheating didn’t really cause the breakup. Answer this question: Why did you cheat on your girlfriend? You can change this question to address your specific situation. Perhaps you cheated on your girlfriend because she wasn’t giving you enough attention. Okay, why wasn’t she giving you enought attention? Keep digging with “why?” questions until you can’t dig anymore. Once you get to the end, you should have the answer to what “really” caused the breakup.Click Here!
Next, you have to keep your cool. Do not be desperate. You may be saying to yourself, “I can get my ex girlfriend back if I text her one hundred times a day”, but the truth is pestering her, and other behavior like it, will only push her further away from you. Stay cool. A good way to acheive this is to not spend time alone. Hang out with friends as much as possible. While you are being cool and hanging back, you want to wait for the right time(s) to arrange to meet with your ex girlfriend. Do not force this. Just wait for the right time.
How To Get Back My Ex Girlfriend – The Final StepClick Here!
Once you are able to plan a harmless and pressureless meeting with your ex, you will be able to implement your plan for reigniting the passion and desire in your relationship. Also, you will be able to initiate your trust-building and communication plan so your ex girlfriend will feel safe with you and trust you.Click Here!
This works! Getting your girl back is not a huge mystery. To learn more about
•how to find the real cause of your breakup
•how to reignite passion, and
•how to communicate better and build trustClick Here!
Friday, November 13, 2009
SIMPLE WAYS TO BACK TOGETHER WITH EX GIRLFRIEND
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Most people start thinking and philosophizing what could be done differently, they make plans about their "apology" letters etc. This is a dead end because of one thing. You'll never truly be able to know the real reasons. Women are mostly emotional and they themselves don't even know for sure why they feel like they do. Stop loosing your energy trying to figure them out. Instead, if you can't forget her, do what I'm about to describe.
The first main strategy is to forget about this relationship for some time, and give all your energy in becoming better in seduction and women in general. Set some realistic goals and get some education about this subject. Give yourself a month or two and Change! Even do things that you never thought you were able to do like dating multiple persons. Don't just try things, educate yourself or you'll get burned out.
The effect of this strategy will be that you will gradually change the way you perceive the whole subject of relationships and guess what, after some months, you'll probably feel differently about your all important ex. Even if you 're still infatuated, you'll be able to re-attract her and make her see you under a different light, because you will already be different. Try to re-initiate a relationship that is damaged is wrong and has little chance of success. Women forget easily and are more in the moment than us. If you are a different person, she will notice.
If you don't even have the energy to try the first strategy, you should then focus on getting her back directly, but at least "play" more strategically. Begging and asking her to re-think is plainly pathetic and is going to create more resistance by her part. So, there are a lot of guides out there but only a handful of them is applicable and realistic, because only few point out the most important aspect to succeed in getting back your ex girlfriend. And this is..... mindset. Yes! It's not a technique, but a mindset and ease with life that will raise you in her eyes.
Be careful not to fall into the trap of analysis - paralysis (a common one, meaning that you study things and not take action) and... may the force be with you.
I have helped more guys succeed in getting back their ex than you can count. If you want an easy to grasp strategy and helping hand, see a truly effective free course Here.Click Here!
Most people start thinking and philosophizing what could be done differently, they make plans about their "apology" letters etc. This is a dead end because of one thing. You'll never truly be able to know the real reasons. Women are mostly emotional and they themselves don't even know for sure why they feel like they do. Stop loosing your energy trying to figure them out. Instead, if you can't forget her, do what I'm about to describe.
The first main strategy is to forget about this relationship for some time, and give all your energy in becoming better in seduction and women in general. Set some realistic goals and get some education about this subject. Give yourself a month or two and Change! Even do things that you never thought you were able to do like dating multiple persons. Don't just try things, educate yourself or you'll get burned out.
The effect of this strategy will be that you will gradually change the way you perceive the whole subject of relationships and guess what, after some months, you'll probably feel differently about your all important ex. Even if you 're still infatuated, you'll be able to re-attract her and make her see you under a different light, because you will already be different. Try to re-initiate a relationship that is damaged is wrong and has little chance of success. Women forget easily and are more in the moment than us. If you are a different person, she will notice.
If you don't even have the energy to try the first strategy, you should then focus on getting her back directly, but at least "play" more strategically. Begging and asking her to re-think is plainly pathetic and is going to create more resistance by her part. So, there are a lot of guides out there but only a handful of them is applicable and realistic, because only few point out the most important aspect to succeed in getting back your ex girlfriend. And this is..... mindset. Yes! It's not a technique, but a mindset and ease with life that will raise you in her eyes.
Be careful not to fall into the trap of analysis - paralysis (a common one, meaning that you study things and not take action) and... may the force be with you.
I have helped more guys succeed in getting back their ex than you can count. If you want an easy to grasp strategy and helping hand, see a truly effective free course Here.Click Here!
WIN BACK YOUR EX-GIRLFRIEND EASILY
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One difficult question and not directly answered during a breakup is "How do I get my ex girlfriend back?" In this article, it will feature that you will have a good chance of winning her back even if you are the one who dumped her.
First, don't try to analyze the "why". Women are emotional creatures than guys. This means that women decide some things that she doesn't even know the reason why. It may just be a case of a bad mood.
You may find it funny but think again all the problems and try to solve the issues between the two of you. Some therapists say different opinions but through experience analyzing things would kill any chances of getting back together. It is better for you to attract her again as if you were doing it from the beginning. She will just forgive and forget everything if she falls for you once again. This is possible since she has fallen in love with you before why not the second time around.
There are a lot of manuals and e-books to help you discover effective ways to get your ex girlfriend back. It is probably possible to get her back but before beginning your endeavor, you should ask yourself a question first. And make sure you are sincere.
One question would be, "do you still have interest in your ex wife or girlfriend if you could have one or many really beautiful women, sexy and interesting, very madly into you?"
You have to reevaluate your plans if your answer to the question above is no or less. Take some time off and understand fully what you really want. You might come up with a decision that you are better off with another woman.
If you feel that her thoughts are always in your mind, let the painful feeling pass. This is a much remedy than thinking of revenge. This act would make you even more miserable.
Contacting her after the breakup is not advisable for a simple reason. Your mind is only thinking of yourself. You are being selfish and you are not considering her feelings too. This behavior will only drive her away since you are not the guy anymore she once met.
You can also get some standard education while waiting for things to calm down. Who knows, maybe it will bring your new relationship to a totally different path this time.
If you are serious about getting your ex back in your life, you need some expert help for Saving Your Relationship
One difficult question and not directly answered during a breakup is "How do I get my ex girlfriend back?" In this article, it will feature that you will have a good chance of winning her back even if you are the one who dumped her.
First, don't try to analyze the "why". Women are emotional creatures than guys. This means that women decide some things that she doesn't even know the reason why. It may just be a case of a bad mood.
You may find it funny but think again all the problems and try to solve the issues between the two of you. Some therapists say different opinions but through experience analyzing things would kill any chances of getting back together. It is better for you to attract her again as if you were doing it from the beginning. She will just forgive and forget everything if she falls for you once again. This is possible since she has fallen in love with you before why not the second time around.
There are a lot of manuals and e-books to help you discover effective ways to get your ex girlfriend back. It is probably possible to get her back but before beginning your endeavor, you should ask yourself a question first. And make sure you are sincere.
One question would be, "do you still have interest in your ex wife or girlfriend if you could have one or many really beautiful women, sexy and interesting, very madly into you?"
You have to reevaluate your plans if your answer to the question above is no or less. Take some time off and understand fully what you really want. You might come up with a decision that you are better off with another woman.
If you feel that her thoughts are always in your mind, let the painful feeling pass. This is a much remedy than thinking of revenge. This act would make you even more miserable.
Contacting her after the breakup is not advisable for a simple reason. Your mind is only thinking of yourself. You are being selfish and you are not considering her feelings too. This behavior will only drive her away since you are not the guy anymore she once met.
You can also get some standard education while waiting for things to calm down. Who knows, maybe it will bring your new relationship to a totally different path this time.
If you are serious about getting your ex back in your life, you need some expert help for Saving Your Relationship
HOW TO WIN BACK YOUR EX-GIRL BACK
http://2f95d1v9cetpcz9li4yeom4mdc.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=GB8N74TSOne difficult question and not directly answered during a breakup is "How do I get my ex girlfriend back?" In this article, it will feature that you will have a good chance of winning her back even if you are the one who dumped her.
First, don't try to analyze the "why". Women are emotional creatures than guys. This means that women decide some things that she doesn't even know the reason why. It may just be a case of a bad mood.
You may find it funny but think again all the problems and try to solve the issues between the two of you. Some therapists say different opinions but through experience analyzing things would kill any chances of getting back together. It is better for you to attract her again as if you were doing it from the beginning. She will just forgive and forget everything if she falls for you once again. This is possible since she has fallen in love with you before why not the second time around.
There are a lot of manuals and e-books to help you discover effective ways to get your ex girlfriend back. It is probably possible to get her back but before beginning your endeavor, you should ask yourself a question first. And make sure you are sincere.
One question would be, "do you still have interest in your ex wife or girlfriend if you could have one or many really beautiful women, sexy and interesting, very madly into you?"
You have to reevaluate your plans if your answer to the question above is no or less. Take some time off and understand fully what you really want. You might come up with a decision that you are better off with another woman.
If you feel that her thoughts are always in your mind, let the painful feeling pass. This is a much remedy than thinking of revenge. This act would make you even more miserable.
Contacting her after the breakup is not advisable for a simple reason. Your mind is only thinking of yourself. You are being selfish and you are not considering her feelings too. This behavior will only drive her away since you are not the guy anymore she once met.
You can also get some standard education while waiting for things to calm down. Who knows, maybe it will bring your new relationship to a totally different path this time.
If you are serious about getting your ex back in your life, you need some expert
First, don't try to analyze the "why". Women are emotional creatures than guys. This means that women decide some things that she doesn't even know the reason why. It may just be a case of a bad mood.
You may find it funny but think again all the problems and try to solve the issues between the two of you. Some therapists say different opinions but through experience analyzing things would kill any chances of getting back together. It is better for you to attract her again as if you were doing it from the beginning. She will just forgive and forget everything if she falls for you once again. This is possible since she has fallen in love with you before why not the second time around.
There are a lot of manuals and e-books to help you discover effective ways to get your ex girlfriend back. It is probably possible to get her back but before beginning your endeavor, you should ask yourself a question first. And make sure you are sincere.
One question would be, "do you still have interest in your ex wife or girlfriend if you could have one or many really beautiful women, sexy and interesting, very madly into you?"
You have to reevaluate your plans if your answer to the question above is no or less. Take some time off and understand fully what you really want. You might come up with a decision that you are better off with another woman.
If you feel that her thoughts are always in your mind, let the painful feeling pass. This is a much remedy than thinking of revenge. This act would make you even more miserable.
Contacting her after the breakup is not advisable for a simple reason. Your mind is only thinking of yourself. You are being selfish and you are not considering her feelings too. This behavior will only drive her away since you are not the guy anymore she once met.
You can also get some standard education while waiting for things to calm down. Who knows, maybe it will bring your new relationship to a totally different path this time.
If you are serious about getting your ex back in your life, you need some expert
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